From (MANAGING YOUR SPIRITUAL COMPANIONS – New Book in Serial Format
When we are communicating with our spiritual companions, we are generally using polite conversation to gather information and free these beings from incidents that have captured their attention. Very few of the beings we contact in session are able to operate freely in present time. Most are stuck in a past death or some horrific incident that has captured so much of their attention that they cannot unstick themselves from it. In effect, they are still living that horrific moment and your attempts to communicate are not really getting through. They appear to here in the present, but they are still stuck in the past.
If you establish a friendly communication line and talk about things they are willing to discuss, you will find that they will begin to wake up and will be happy to work with you. If you think of them as being semi-conscious and still in shock, you will treat them gently and will usually establish communication with them that will help them recover from their experience.
If you think of them as a human being who is confused, has lost their body, and needs help in regaining their free will, you will not go far wrong. They may be cranky and confused, but your only way to help them is to find what they are willing to do and work with that.
You wait until the client has located the spirit and has put their attention on him. You will be able to spot where their attention is and put your attention there also. (If this is beyond you, drill spotting attention with a twin until you have certainty.)
Your opening question should be gentle and something on the order of, “Is it OK if I help you?
However you word it, it should be a question that they can answer yes or no to.
If they say, “No!”, you gently ask, “Why not?”
They will almost always open up and start telling you about the incident they are still stuck in. If it isn’t the basic incident, it will be something serious and letting them tell you about it will release enough charge that they will begin to communicate.
Very rarely, the being may speak first and seem quite chatty. If that is the case, you let him speak his fill and acknowledge him. If he has a concern, you ask questions to get all of it. If he has a complaint, you ask questions as to what solutions are acceptable to him.
You are seeking the incident he has his attention on and it may take a little conversation before you can locate it. If he appears to you in a uniform or armor of some sort, you may get an impression of the incident, but do not make assumptions. If he doesn’t tell you, you should ask if he lost his life or his body in this incident.
If you encounter a spirit or spirits and they do not provide a clue about their history, you might ask when did they last have bodies or was there some incident they still have attention on. Eventually they will begin to tell you about the incident. If you give them half-acknowledgments, they will continue until they have told all. You need to get everything that they have attention on. These will usually be the terrible things that others have done to them.
Once they are finished, you must ask them, what prompted these other people to start the incident that cost them their lives. If they do not volunteer it, you must ask them what they did to cause the other people to start the incident. You may have to frame the question in a non-judgmental way such as, “Was there something done or said that caused these others to do what they did?”
If you have done it in a friendly and non-judgmental way, they will usually laugh and admit they told the others to do something in an insulting and offensive way. Sometimes they will admit to having struck first or caused harm to the group that is nor persecuting them.
This where you have to be very understanding and non-judgmental because you are going to ask them, “How did you justify that?” or “What made that seem like a good solution?” You may have to ask the question several times before you get the real justification which will cause a release to occur and result in laughter. This justification does not have to make sense to you. If it is the real justification that caused the person to take action which changed his life for the worse, he will feel relief and and will no longer try to defend it. Many times the justification will sound like, “It seemed like a good idea at the time!”
What you will find is the being made a decision to resolve a confusion and it turned out badly. Revisiting the justification will usually reveal that the decision was faulty and the justification really made no sense. In the rare case where this does not resolve the fixation on the incident, you will need to ask what the confusion was and this will blow the whole problem.
Very, very rarely, this was not the first or basic confusion and you will need to ask if there was an earlier confusion and one before that. If there is a chain of confusions that has been causing the person to alienate others, this will change everyone’s life when it is discovered.
You will find that these same questions will resolve issues between people wearing bodies. In all cases, you are removing someone from being a victim to taking responsibility for their condition. It will set them free from a losing lifestyle and will help them to take responsibility for their lives thereafter.