SOME RECENT OBSERVATIONS ABOUT GIVING AND RECEIVING ADMIRATION

Admiring Someone Is Like Giving Them Life

When you admire someone, you give them a flow of life force without diminishing your own supply. If they become more alive when you admire them, that makes you feel better, and you both benefit.

You Can Admire Yourself

It is relatively easy as long as you realize you are a spirit having a human experience. You made an incredible number of decisions to arrive at the present moment in your current body with all of the conditions that come with that choice. Your sex, race, social status, and a few other factors were determined by your choice of mothers. If you decided to rise above the limitations of your birth circumstances, you have created a life and career that is admirable from a number of standpoints. You should also realize that you are free to change your life and career arc at any time and in any direction. If you can admire what you are doing that is positive, you will find that you will be able to do more of these activities.

You Should Look For Things To Admire

If life seems to be full of things you do not like, find something to admire, and life will become more enjoyable. When you are surrounded by things you detest or despise, this tends to suck the life out of you. Working for people who do not appreciate your efforts, trying to help people who do not want your help, being somewhere you are not wanted, all of these will drain you and leave you unhappy, and you will feel oppressed, invalidated, and so forth. I am not going to say this is all your fault, but somewhere along the line, you failed to understand that you need to have or create an environment where you have plenty of things to admire.

The Basis Of Admiration Is Exchange

We still have a further study to fully understand what this means, but our recent experiences show that admiring something that returns the flow will increase the life energy of all who participate in the exchange. Admiration is the giving of life, and when that which is admired responds in kind, both ends of the communication line benefit.

We have also found that when we admire something or someone sufficiently, we perceive information about the intentions of the person or the intentions that went into creating something, whether art or an object like a car. We may not receive admiration from the person or thing, but we gather information about the person or thing that lets us make intelligent decisions about how to deal with it in the future.

RECEIVING ADMIRATION IS NICE, BUT GIVING IT IS FAR BETTER FOR YOUR SANITY

Those who make their living by attracting admiration become dependent on the continuation of that flow. This tends to reward behavior that produces admiration rather than on behavior benefiting the person themselves. Performers are requested to play audience favorites time and time again, while comedians need new material to keep the admiration coming. In either case, the audience’s reaction becomes the controlling factor in the performer’s life until the performer finds a new audience.

Even in a work environment, a person can become addicted to admiration and, in this way, be controlled by those who dole out admiration sparingly to control the behavior of subordinates.

Referring to the comments made above about admiration and exchange, one should only accept admiration for work that meets your own standards and not be dependent on that admiration at all. Then when you receive admiration, you will see it as an acknowledgment of work well done, and not as a gift.

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